Slutshaming is not the most common word in the Russian language. This is not surprising, because it is a direct copy of English. Slutshaming is the condemnation of girls for their appearance and behavior, which is considered too "loose". The limits of what is permissible and excessive, of course, are not established in any way and are determined only by those who act as the subject of condemnation.
How slut shaming manifests itself
Many of you may be thinking, "It's enough not to sleep with everyone and no one will consider you a girl of easy virtue." And here lies the first problem of slut shaming: it is rarely based on objective facts at all. Who among us has not come across the incredibly valuable and necessary opinion of other people that the skirt could be longer and the neckline could be smaller? And make-up could not be so bright, and red lipstick is generally the first sign of a prostitute. In addition, everything is not limited to physical criteria: just a popular girl or even one who refused sex can become a “whore” (yes, there is little logic in this phenomenon at all).
No one cares that, on the one hand, the stereotype of obligatory sexuality is imposed on girls, and on the other hand, they are condemned for the same sexuality. Moreover, even if someone practices sex without obligations and is satisfied with it, one can only be glad for such a person, because, subject to the mutual consent of the partners, this does not harm anyone. But for some reason, only men remain the winners - for them, this is considered a sign of masculinity. But a girl who treats her sexuality "like a man" will sooner or later receive an offensive stigma.
Such double standards form the very culture of slut shaming. In a patriarchal society, it is men who are given the opportunity to determine the boundaries and norms for female sexuality, and as soon as someone goes beyond these boundaries, they immediately try to drive her back, using public condemnation as a tool of punishment. Companions by gender often join this: unconsciously obeying the restrictions on the part of society, they demand the same from all girls, regardless of their personal desire.
How slut shaming harms each of us and why we need to fight it
You may be thinking right now, “You should just ignore what others say.” In part, this is true - as long as there is such an opportunity.
Slutshaming surrounds women from a very young age. Girls who are simply interested in their mother's cosmetic bag are forbidden to put on makeup - because that way they will look like a "whore". Older girls prefer not the clothes that they really like, but dictated by society - and continue to live day after day in an uncomfortable way for them, which affects self-esteem.
The situation does not end with psychological pressure. It's not uncommon for women to be denied jobs or simply being treated with respect based solely on how they look. By the way, you don’t even need revealing clothes for this: the opinion “she’s beautiful, so stupid” is also a manifestation of slut shaming.
One of the most serious and traumatic consequences of such an attitude is victim blaming or “blaming the victim”. Most often, victims of rape or harassment face it: in Russia, police often find it completely normal to ask what the victim wore and what lifestyle she leads. While the only one to blame for this can only be the attacker, part of his guilt is transferred to the victim. Neither clothes, nor makeup, nor the number of sexual partners can be considered an excuse for rape.
How to live with it
For starters, stop judging other girls. It is difficult and requires effort, but still possible. Two thoughts that should be taught in elementary school help well with this:
- You never know what drives another person.
- No one is obligated to follow the moral standards that you have set for yourself.
Admit it: Judgment is rarely associated with real concern for the other person. More often it is caused by misunderstanding or envy: “why can she, but I can’t.” Liberation from the idea that everyone must abide by the same norms and standards not only frees up a lot of time and nerves, but also provides an opportunity to explore and understand one's own desires and aspirations.
Information about new technologies in the pimp business. In addition, it was found out where sex services are cheaper than in Moscow, and in which countries is it better to limit yourself to sex for love?
In Russia, prostitution is banned, but this does not prevent representatives of the oldest profession from earning money with their craft. Life correspondents have studied the secret distribution channels of elite prostitutes who sell "love" to Arab sheikhs, high-ranking officials and billionaires from the Forbes list.
Life compared the prices of "Telegram" prostitutes and prostitutes in different countries.
Thailand - 600 rubles for one orgasm
Thailand is a paradise for sexually liberated people. Here they agree on the price in different ways: some at the beginning to convince you to go with you, others prefer to talk about money after sex. On average, you will have to pay 300 baht (about 600 rubles), for a night the girl will ask for 500 baht (about 1 thousand rubles). In some areas, sex services cost an average of 1000-3000 baht (1900 - 5800 thousand rubles).
Germany - 2.3 thousand rubles in the car
Since 2002, prostitution in Germany has been completely legal, and its annual turnover is about €15 million. And this is not surprising: the price for sex in a hotel is about €50 (about 3.9 thousand rubles), in a car it will cost less - €30 ( about 2.3 thousand rubles). Moreover, for half an hour in the client's apartment, you will have to pay €100 (about 7.7 thousand rubles).
Netherlands - 3.9 thousand rubles for 15 minutes
The heart of Amsterdam tourism is the red-light district, where advertising agencies, start-ups and local radio stations stand near windows with prostitutes. Since prostitution is officially allowed in Holland, the representatives of the oldest profession pay taxes. Therefore, the cost of their services is €50 euros (about 3.9 thousand rubles) for 15 minutes, the trance will cost only €30 (about 2.3 thousand rubles).
Belarus - 7.7 thousand rubles per hour
Despite the general level of low prices in the country, the cost of sex services can compete with Europe. For example, an hour with a girl can cost at least $100 (about 7.7 thousand rubles). During the night, most butterflies ask for $500 (about 38.7 thousand rubles).
USA - 27 thousand rubles per hour
In New York, prostitution is illegal, but no one forbids visiting nightclubs, meeting and chatting with girls. The problem is that in the club you can run into not a representative of an ancient profession, but an experienced police officer dressed as a prostitute. However, the cost of risk in the country is $400 (about 27,000 rubles) per hour.
Great Britain - 6 thousand rubles for 30 minutes
Prostitution in the UK is legal, moths even have their own trade unions. As a result, telephone booths have turned into billboards for prostitutes. On average, an hour with a girl costs £100 (about 9.9 thousand rubles), there is also an offer for half an hour, which will cost £60 (about 6 thousand rubles), for the whole night - £750 (about 74.2 thousand rubles). rubles).
France - 11.6 thousand rubles per hour
Organized prostitution is strictly prohibited in France, but street prostitution is quite legal: cute French "moths" can get a patent for their activities. The cost of such ladies is € 150 (about 11.6 thousand rubles), but in return they should be extremely invisible to the police.
Italy - 5.5 thousand rubles per hour
In Italy, prostitutes are required to wear reflective uniforms, which makes it much easier to find easily accessible girls. In addition, the price of moths starts from €200 (about 15.5 thousand rubles) per hour and ends at €4.5 thousand (about 348.6 thousand rubles) in three days.
Vladimir Putin's recent press conference was remembered by a new catchphrase. Commenting on rumors about Donald Trump's meetings with prostitutes in a Moscow hotel, the President of Russia named night butterflies. Several workers from the oldest profession from the Urals told Life what they think about this wording.
Liza, 34 years old
The main thing is that the President did not offend us. It's good to have support. It's good that it doesn't piss us off. But I do not agree with these words. We are people with high social responsibility. Our profession is more psychological than immoral. We are constantly saving people from depression. I even think about changing the name in the questionnaire from "prostitute" to "girl with increased social responsibility." But again, I'm afraid of those who are against the president, I'm afraid of the opposition, so I'm still thinking. I don't want to draw the attention of the authorities. If the president starts real action in support of our profession, then I will take action in support of him.
Milana, 24 years old
We are like nurses in the forest. We save society from pedophiles - they come to us, and not to rape the people. But in a way he is right. Everyone thinks only of himself. Recently we collected money for an orphanage, however, everyone refused us, and we helped with art therapy for children - it was interesting. We help like everyone else. But what the fuck are our responsibilities? And why does he generalize? This generalization is inappropriate. You can't generalize like that in our profession. Some of us with increased, some with reduced social responsibility. And yet, I am more inclined that he is right: such people have no duties, they do not need anything. And other people help too. And in general, the wording in life does not change anything.
Mrs. Natalia, 25 years old
This is fundamentally the wrong wording. We are girls with increased social responsibility! Because we are all here responsible for someone - for relatives, for children. There are certain responsibilities. We provide psychological assistance. We do not decompose men: a man must understand that he must come and pay, only then receive something. We teach them responsibility. In addition, a woman in this profession more carefully monitors her health, unlike a neighbor of the same age. We also donate some money to our children. This year we sent part of the money to the Chelyabinsk orphanage. Not every manager goes to do this, but we do it. We do not decompose, we have our own clear task, people come to us to relax, they come with their problems, we help, we explain, we listen, we speak. I'll even think about renaming myself as "a girl with increased social responsibility" on the sites.
Erica, 30 years old
I do not agree that our responsibility is downgraded. We are girls with increased social responsibility! It will be more correct. Now I can’t talk - I’m at the checkout, I have people standing.
Mila, 20 years old
I think that we have an increased social responsibility, not a reduced one. We help children, we take care of their health, we take care of our families, we help them.
Baby Julia, 26 years old
This is wrong, because girls are many times more responsible in comparison with bl **** and who give right and left and do not take care of their health. And the president correctly said: prostitution is not started from a good life, and those girls come here who have nothing to feed their children, who have sick parents. These are girls with increased social responsibility, definitely! They help men cope with their troubles, relieve emotional and psychological stress - there are fewer conflicts at home. People come to us with gratitude that there are fewer conflicts in the family. Also, thanks to us, there is less violence in the city, less crime. Fewer murders, fewer maniacs who commit sexual crimes. We reduce the risk of crime. In general, there should be a certain number of girls in the city in order to reduce crime in the metropolis. I can’t comment on this on the video - I am a very significant person in the city, they can recognize me by my voice. I would even really change my name in the questionnaire, I’ll think about it and change my name to the topic of the day.
And it's wrong to call us that.
"his president" from A. Vashukevich.
Navalny- for spreading the same illiterate Putin-Venedict term; for misleading the public about the occupation of Vashukevich, which can be called anything - hunting, reconnaissance, espionage, establishing psychological dominance over the victim, promoting free love, participating in the hippie movement, preaching universal love following Jesus Christ, but by no means banal escorts - services; for supporting the Kremlin's aggression against Georgia; for a sandwich position in Crimea; for the pro-Kremlin position in the murder of B. Nemtsov.
Venediktov- not only for odes to Putin and manipulative attacks on private citizens, but also for the regular dissemination of disinformation - from to giving to a military tribunal.
Putin- for a long list of crimes against citizens of Russia and other countries; for the murder of tens of thousands of people in Russia, Chechnya, Georgia, Ukraine, Syria; for gross violations of the Constitution of Russia, Russian legislation, international law; for endless aggressions against other states; for everything for which the editor-in-chief EM sings his odes to the most “insightful person”.
These people are really men with reduced social responsibility - in the truest sense of these words.
This expression has not yet lost its relevance, although it can be heard less and less in everyday life. Much more often it is replaced by the word "prostitute". But this is not entirely correct, since a fallen woman is not only a priestess of love. Today you will find out to whom such an appeal applies, what it means.
There is a difference
In Europe, a fallen woman is a drug addict, an immigrant, a victim of violence. But if we turn to Russian history, then such an epithet was "awarded" mainly to ladies who were not particularly picky in choosing sexual partners. Moreover, it could be a woman who had several official marriages. In Soviet times, this was condemned by both the party and the people. A real communist had to get married once and carry this cross all her life, even if the marriage was not very successful. Artists were an exception: they could be forgiven for some frivolity in this matter, since creative people are different from the general population.
Bible
The first mention of harlot women in the Old Testament is of an interesting nature. The daughter of Jacob was traveling in foreign lands and attracted the attention of the son of the prince of Shechem. He dishonored Dina, but later asked for the girl's hand from her father. The unfortunate brothers reacted sharply and declared that their sister was not a harlot to do this to her. Consent to the marriage was obtained, but the prince had to agree: all the men in the city were circumcised.
Jesus Christ spoke about the fact that harlots go ahead of everyone into the Kingdom of God. Another fallen woman is Tamar. The girl who sold her services for a kid. Rembrandt even captured this scene in a painting. It is known that the ancient Israeli society even guarded harlots, but the ministers of the churches were forbidden to take them as spouses.
walking woman
As a rule, this is a lady who is not bound by marriage and regularly changes men. It is free from obligations and unburdened by moral values. Can we call her a fallen woman? It depends on the society in which this person rotates. If she is on the bottom rung of social strata, then such an expression may be applicable. But to call a pop star or a famous actress that way, no one will turn their tongue. Although there is no particular difference in behavior between them, but the colossal gap in terms of social status changes everything. A walking woman can be both a legal spouse and a mother of a large family. It all depends on the character and upbringing of the woman.
You don't have to be a prostitute to get such an offensive nickname. Girls who grew up in dysfunctional families often have a weak concept of morality. Before their eyes, such scenes took place that by the time they mature, they do not consider it necessary to look for a permanent partner. They do not take money for their services, they simply give their body to everyone who shows interest.
The result of such a life is addiction to alcohol or drug addiction. Then from a simple frivolous person the girl turns into a full-fledged prostitute. For a dose or a bottle, she is ready to trade the body, but now it is already considered work, and not a means for obtaining pleasure. Among the outcasts, there are plenty of such persons: in any brothel there is such a fallen woman who provides her intimate services in exchange for the right drug.
Escorts
These ladies can also be called fallen, but they stand at the highest level. They also sell their bodies, but not to the hucksters or the working class, but to the wealthiest men. Moreover, there are cases when such elite prostitutes became the wives of their clients. But still, in most cases, they remain only girls who can accompany them to any event and provide intimate services. Their work is paid very highly, but money cannot wash away the stigma of a fallen woman, which they will bear for the rest of their lives. They are also considered girls with low social responsibility, although they can drive prime-class cars at the same time.
Prostitutes
Prostitution is the biggest niche in which every woman is considered fallen. Although this is one of the oldest professions, it is still considered the most shameful. Prostitutes are not respected, they have no rights. For their hard and thankless work, they can get a term. This profession has no age. Girls as young as 14 as well as women over 60 can be prostitutes.
Why do girls become prostitutes?
It would seem that there are no advantages at all from this way of earning, and there are more and more fallen women! Selling your body on the street drives both need and lack of demand. Often, after graduating from university, girls cannot find work. This is especially true for those who come from small towns and villages. There is no desire to return to the wilderness, and it is very difficult to get settled in the metropolis. The girl decides to earn some money with her own body until she has a chance to find a real good job. However, few succeed in breaking out of the vicious circle.
For those who are unfortunate, who failed the exams, the road to confusion becomes even shorter. They stay in a strange city in the hope of trying their luck in a year. Without a profession and a livelihood, girls are forced to go to the bar.
Need and more
The average mother of several children can also become a fallen woman. An unemployed husband, lack of help from relatives and many other factors can push this desperate step. Sometimes such ladies have official work, and at night they earn extra money by prostitution. Relatives and friends may not even know about her additional income.
Some are attracted to this type of income. Girls think that this is the easiest way to get rich. But the real picture is far from being as colorful as inexperienced debutantes paint it. A pimp and the police, problems with the law and health, lack of personal life - this is not the whole list of what awaits a fallen woman.
Why girls with addiction become prostitutes, we have already explained. But very often, ladies acquire addictions already in the process of work, in order to look at life easier and easier to endure moral torment. Then the life of a prostitute becomes like a carousel: the search for a dose, the client, again the search for a dose. The existence of a fallen woman is unenviable, no matter what level she is.